Many people are enraged at 50 Shades. This is porn! they say. "This is a terrible injustice to the truth of sex and sexual relationships". "Sex should be pure". "It's degrading". "We have stooped so low". "It's a tragedy to speak of sex in such a cheap manner".
But is it?
Some people like rough sex, some people like to be tied up, and some people don't. I don't however see anyone into BSDM bothered with the classic romantic views of sex. Thing is, if the sexual activity involves consenting adults, it's not harmful.
What is harmful in 50 Shades however is the message that "love conquers all" and guess what, that message is in every fairy tale and animated movie we take our children to.
So whilst it's true that love is a great force which I subscribe to, it does not conquer all and, in fact, that belief has got a lot of people into trouble. Loving a damaged abusive person won't fix him or her; years of therapy might and it's best to stay out of such people's path.
It's respect that conquers all and it would be a great idea if we start teaching our children the difference.
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